It Is as It Is

Several summers ago, my husband Judge Blah took a course on one book written by Indian writer and philosopher Sri Aurobindo entitled The Life Divine, a tome packed full of gems sparkling in the realms of yoga, the Vedas, the Gita, and layers of Indian thought.

After this  delving into Indian spirituality at St. John’s College in Santa Fe, New Mexico, he boarded the plane and came home. I picked him up at the airport and we waited for his luggage. The luggage didn’t come.

The old Judge Blah would have begun a pointed discourse on what is wrong with the airline industry and how he would solve the problem of baggage handling incompetence.

Instead of subjecting me to his diatribe of pressured speech, he simply stated, “ Cheri, it is as it is.”

Since that time, whenever I am railing against modern culture and all of its warts, Judge Blah says, “ It is as it is.”

While such a statement is inherently true, it can be highly annoying to hear.

The seat I have reserved for the opera is behind someone with big hair.
(It is as it is.)

The red bell pepper I need for my recipe has bugs in it.
(It is as it is.)

The Labrador Retriever puppy that I chose is allergic to everything on our property.
(It is as it is.)


So, when is this transcendent statement irrelevant? (With due respect to Mr. Aurobindo)

A trip to the local Raley’s Supermarket might serve as an illustration.

I enter the supermarket and promptly slip on water by the floral department (It is as it is.) Luckily, Wanda, a Raley’s employee, helps me up. Reaching into my purse, I snag my newly manicured thumbnail on my wallet’s zipper and pull my nail off. Ouch!! (It is as it is.) I then take out my grocery list. My cholesterol is high, so although (It is as it is), it doesn’t have to be, so I shall buy rice cakes, carrots, and sugarless, flavorless, fat-free ice cream. I run into my nephew Cornelius in the wine aisle and catch him  sneaking to the check stand with a bottle of zinfandel. One problem: he is only 14. (It is as it is) but it doesn’t have to be, so I call his father on my cell phone. My brother says that I need to mind my own business. (It is as it is.)

There you have it. What we can’t control, we need to accept.

If what we can control needs changing, we should make an effort.

About Cheri

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9 Responses to It Is as It Is

  1. Kris Knight says:

    I so enjoy your musings, Cheri. Thank you for taking the time to encourage, admonish, and expand our thinking with excellent imagery and juicy language. I am always inspired and often pass along your ideas.

    “It is as it is,” is wonderfully juxtaposed. I can feel frustration and release with each situation. And the truth that not all choices are served well with “it is as it is” dismissals. I see it much too often with the students I teach. And not until they believe that for them it DOES NOT HAVE TO BE, can they begin to achieve excellence in their own education.

    Thanks again. I am a fan!

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  3. Foreign Toe says:

    Over here Lord Denning had a way of saying “And there it is” after passing judgment.

    So be assured that there was still all manner of non-acceptance even after his visit to Santa Fe.

    Your posts have a way of balancing opposites in a nonchalant, very feminine style, exposing universal truths. I’m getting hooked!

    It is obvious you dearly love Judge Blah.

  4. lichanos says:

    Yes, well if you want to hype it up a bit into a really pretentious bit of philosophical sonority, you could cite Wittgenstein:

    “The world is everything that is the case.” So, no use complaining, it’s just the world. Besides, as he concludes, there are those things about which one cannot speak, and so only pass over in silence, i.e., “shut up!”

  5. Mary Roe says:

    I remember reading in a history book that “It is as it is” was the motto of the English ruling Plantagenet family.

  6. Cheri says:

    I had no idea, Mary. Perhaps my husband comes from that family. His mantra now is ” It is what it is.”

  7. Christopher says:

    You’ll recall, I feel sure, the “Serenity Prayer”, that goes something like:

    God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
    The courage to change the things I can,
    And the wisdom to know the difference.

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